Books on christian dating relationships
I want to suggest that we can make this whole dating thing a lot simpler and less confusing by simply holding fast to the clear, relatively few principles spelled out in Scripture. Christians Pursue Jesus Above All This is the overriding principle which must govern every relationship.
When Josh Harris wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye, he had good intentions.
You might find it helpful to know some of the beneficial opportunities in dating. (Some couples never get beyond eros.) The dating relationship might then move to a second love labeled phileo: affectionate love based on genuinely liking the other person—friendship.
And the third love is agape: unconditional love that seeks what is in the best interest of the other person. All relationships, dating and otherwise, should begin with agape, which means we seek the other’s highest good.
A guy must ask a girl’s dad first, then the guy must ask the girl, then the girl must say yes, then the couple can start seeing each other IN GROUPS (! If things go well for the first eight months or so, the couple may or may not be allowed to spend semi-unsupervised time together and possibly even (GASP! Once the young man has firmly established himself financially and is sufficiently godly, he can ask the girl to marry him. Both families, as well as lots of church members, must be involved in the entire process, from start to finish. There are so many variables in each relationship: the age of the couple, the spiritual maturity of the couple, whether or not both sets of parents are believers, how long the guy and girl have been a Christian, the ethnicity of the couple, and on and on.
To take some variation of the practices above and arbitrarily slap them onto a relationship can actually end up harming the relationship.